The 20/30-Something Guide to Relationship Advice

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Today, we’re doing a deep dive on relationships. Whether you’re looking for advice on how to handle a romantic interest or want to know how to maintain a friendship, we’ve got you covered. We consulted Team SN for their advice on common relationship dilemmas, with our responses broken down by age range. Read on for every piece of wisdom!

Team SN's 20-Something Guide to Relationship Advice

Romantic Relationship Advice for the 20-Something:

Question: How do you define the relationship with someone you are casually dating?

Team SN: Be honest! After dating so many people who were wrong for me, I learned that the most important thing is to be honest about how you’re feeling and stay true to yourself. That will help you end up with the right person!

Question: What advice do you have for someone who is ready to get engaged, but their partner is not?

Team SN: Think to yourself: “Is the reason they are not ready something I should be concerned about, or can I live the way we currently are a bit longer?” I personally feel that there should not be a rush and these things need to happen at the right moment to be right. When it’s meant to be, it will be!

Friendship Advice for the 20-Something:

Question: How do you maintain a long-distance friendship?

Team SN: Put in the effort but also know that a true friendship is one that lasts! I have friends that I go weeks without talking to but the second we catch up, it feels like no time has passed by at all.

Question: How do you make friends as an adult?

Team SN: Many of my “new” friendships are actually my work ones and they are so special to me. My advice would be to not judge a book by its cover and embrace others that want to be your friend. At the end of the day, can you really have too many? On the other hand, I do believe in quality over quantity especially when it comes to friendships.

Team SN's 30-Something Guide to Relationship Advice

Romantic Relationship Advice for the 30-Something:

Question: How do you define the relationship with someone you are casually dating?

Team SN: Take time to figure out exactly what you want from the relationship and be prepared to communicate it in an honest and clear conversation. If he or she is being vague or doesn’t even want to talk about it, that should tell you they’re not interested in taking it to the next step. It might be painful, but don’t you want to know either way?!

Question: What advice do you have for someone who is ready to get engaged, but their partner is not?

Team SN: First, figure out why your partner isn’t ready–it could speak to a larger issue, or it could be a matter of timing. If timing is the cause, you can communicate your ideal timeline or a five-year plan and ask your partner to map out their ideal timeline too. From there, you can find a happy medium that is realistic and respectful of everyone’s wishes.

Friendship Advice for the 30-Something:

Question: How do you maintain a long-distance friendship?

Team SN: Schedule Facetime or phone call dates regularly! It’s much easier to connect and properly catch up via the phone or Facetime rather than texting on and off.

Question: How do you make friends as an adult?

Team SN: This is difficult during COVID, but the easiest way to meet new people is to lean into your hobbies. Whether you’re taking a cooking class or see familiar faces on your daily running route, make an effort to start a conversation with people who are doing the same activities as you. You have a natural common interest to bond over!